Right now I'm trying to help Amanda with this via IM, but let's share the story of Sarah.
Sarah ranted about how she couldn't fight, how she had no skill, how she'd hurt someone or get hurt, and on and on listing all the reasons that she couldn't do it. Finally, she was dragged out onto the floor, and was told, "You're fighting." It was like watching a werewolf or something. I tapped her once on the shoulder, twice on the shoulder and then she erupted. Just went off, flailing, attacking. All of the karate that she claimed not to have learned came out, and she started beating me.
I escaped the assault, and those of us that were there calmed her down, and we tried it again. Once to the shoulder, twice to the shoulder, and again, she transformed. But this time, she rode it out. She was in control. The rage was still there, so was the intensity, but she could be cool with it.
It's all about control, but it's about self control. It's about not raging. It's about being in control of your body and defending and attacking competently.
Am I being clear about this at ALL?
