I disagree with loving someone solely for their mind. This comes up because of this thread.
I am not my mind. My mind is only a part of the totality that is the Remy. To deny any part of myself is to amputate my persona.
While my mind shapes a great deal of my life- so does my body. I think the way I think because of the fact that I experience the world with human senses. Blind people think differently from people with sight. Someone without legs has a different outlook on the world than the rest of us.
In other words, our body defines our existance at least as much as our mind does.
Sexual behavior should be approached with an eye to the Totality of the Individual Transience (TIT for the initiated). The whole of the person at that instant! Examine the person not as a member of a group (white, black, male, female, freak, geek, psychopath, sniper), but as an individual created from a peculiar set of traits that have not, nor ever will, occur in the scope of human existance.